Why I Don’t Believe in Target Weights

I just finished reading another memoir. This one is written by the blogger Andie Mitchell and is titled It Was Me All Along. Just to give you a background on it, the majority of the memoir talks about Andie’s struggles with finding a balance between food. While a lot of the book focuses around her weight loss (she started off as being an obese child), I didn’t find the book to be triggering at all. She also went through a restrictive/overexercise phase, and the book tells her journey to tame both the restrictor and the binger inside of her. One quote in particular stuck with me:

“I decided in that moment that I would try my best to let myself find the weight I was supposed to be. If not running everyday… meant that I would gain 5 pounds, then I would accept each one of them.”

Screen shot 2015-07-10 at 8.30.58 AMA lot of people in recovery use exercise as a “crutch”. So many of us in recovery have plastered onto our Instagram accounts: LW___ HW___ GW___. But do we really know what our goal weight is? And once we reach this goal weight, we go back to exercising. And we try as hard as we can to stay exactly at our minimum. Maybe our bodies aren’t meant to stay at that number.

If you are having a hard time because your weight is yo-yoing a few pounds and you feel like you have to watch your intake/exercise frequently just to maintain your weight, then maybe you should rethink what you are doing.

Because in the long run, is spending your life compulsively watching a silly number on the scale going to make you feel fulfilled? Do you want to be sitting on your deathbed feeling proud of the fact that you kept your weight exactly the same? Or would you rather remember the smiles, the memories, the laughs?

Honestly, it’s up to you.

12 thoughts on “Why I Don’t Believe in Target Weights

  1. So true. Scales are old fashioned in my opinion, and our weight fluctuates by pounds just depending on the time of day! Its much better (and healthier) to reflect on how we FEEL, not any kind of number 🙂


    1. Yes, I feel like my weight on the scale does not represent anything accurately. I actually tend to gain weight if I restrict/over exercise. and as much anxiety as seeing that number go up a slight bit, I know logically that no body can physically see a difference!


  2. I really want to get to a stage when the number on the scales does not dictate my worth. Reading your post has pushed me a step closer to that stage, thank you for sharing this!


  3. This is such a great post Emily! I have been thinking a lot about this within the past 6 months. As someone who is also recovering from restricting and binging, I have to say it is extremely hard to let go and say “It’s ok to gain a little bit of weight.” I haven’t weighed myself in a while but I still have those thoughts of “God, I’m gaining weight. Guh, I look heavier. Ugh, I can tell I’m gaining fat.” That balance that Andie talks about is incredibly important in those moments! I look forward to reading “It Was Me All Along.”


    1. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has ever struggled with health/food/weight issues. It can be a rough time trying to figure out what your set point weight is that your body naturally enjoys, and it can be even harder to accept that weight. I hope that you are doing and feeling well ❤

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  4. This is so so true! I struggled with the idea of maintaining my weight for such a long time! Exercise was my go to for staying slim! The truth is that we all do have a natural set point like you said, and that’s the weight at which our body functions best! Great blog post and something everyone should read:)


    1. Thank you so much Amy! Yes, I truly believe in the set-weight point theory and that we do not need to micromanage that set point! Thank you for reading and I hope you are having a great day<3


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